Ba Zi: how to discover talents and life mission

When BA ZI can help us recognize a talent and our life mission.

This blog was born from the desire to gradually explore certain topics and, above all, to provide examples of how the disciplines I practice can help us regain our balance: physical, emotional, and mental.

In this article I want to talk to you about passions and talents.

Passion comes from a visceral need of our Soul. It needs care and sometimes hard work, but the result will be extraordinary!

Talent is innate. Following it is easy if you recognize it right away.

Both can be hidden and silent for a very long time. Passion tends to explode and give no rest until it is pursued. A talent can remain unheard… but it tends to stay alive under the ashes… and it is really a pity to waste it, because that is truly a fire that warms the heart… it is like the hearth. If you take care of it, it is your home.

When I was 4 years old, I wanted to be a ballerina, I wanted to dance, I insisted so much that I wore my parents down… I was 7 when they finally enrolled me in classical dance school. That summer I had read Liliana Cosi’s book “Magic Slippers,” I was totally obsessed.

On the day of the trial class, I was so excited that I couldn’t even go into the room, I only had tights and a t-shirt, I felt terribly uncomfortable, because I had also noticed that I was much bigger, taller, and more tense than the other 5-year-old girls, chubby and delightful in the splendid harmony of tiny black leotards and ballet shoes. The teacher noticed me by chance. She let me enter the rehearsal room. Immediately I felt like the Ugly Duckling.

However, I stayed faithful to my passion, I was stiff as a stick, luckily elegant, but still hard, never fluid in movements… and above all it took me twice as long as the others to learn the choreographies. I held on until I was 13. I really loved it, I felt the music with my heart and every cell, I saw myself dancing agile in my mind and then in the photos the reality was harsh… I really looked like a lamppost. Only around 13 was I able to give grace and lightness to my movements. BUT school commitments forced me to choose between dance and swimming. And I chose swimming.

I was really good at swimming and gliding through the water, I wasn’t very resistant but I was really fast, in races I managed to use the “currents” generated by my lane neighbors to get to the finish line faster and this excited me enormously.

These days I have been reflecting on my talents.

Why do we think we don’t have any? Or why don’t we give them the right importance?

When we make our life choices, why don’t we base them on these gifts we already have? How much easier would it be if we let our nature guide us in these choices?

And how much easier would it be to achieve satisfaction and success?

Since I have been studying Ba Zi (which is simply translated as Chinese Astrology, but is actually a real map of a person’s life that gives us an immense amount of information about every aspect of their existence), I notice certain details that were completely unknown to me at the time.

For example, some of us learn at school simply by listening to the teacher and reading the study text once, others have to work very hard… BUT maybe the first forgets everything the day after the test, and the second still remembers years later what he studied.

Or a person seems born to be a teacher but out of fear or because pushed by parents or friends to do another job, ends up for decades frustrated, unhappy, demotivated… anything but a person who happily occupies their place in the world! They probably will not achieve the success that would otherwise have been guaranteed, and above all they will not be able to carry out their LIFE MISSION, the very reason they came into the world.

I thought of writing this post one evening during choir practice. I have been part of the Frauenchor of Gilsbach (the women’s choir of Gilsbach) since September 2024. The last time I sang was at my friend Sara’s wedding in October 2020. And before that, at the auditions for the Gospel Choir of Grugliasco (Turin) in 2006. Practically a lifetime. Sure, for me singing has always been there: in the car, in the shower, with my girls… During university I studied opera singing for 2 years with a Maestro of the Choir of the Teatro Regio in Turin. I went to him because I wanted to sing like Barbra Streisand.

Of course, because dreams don’t come in half measures!!!!

I was convinced I was a Soprano… we worked a lot on the high notes then one day he said “let’s try the low notes” … he was enthusiastic about the warmth of those notes. At first, given my delicate, polite, shy appearance, he taught me VERY BORING pieces… intense but sad (evidently that was the aura I emanated). Then, one day by chance, after realizing we could play with the voice, he had me try Rossini and Mozart pieces. I had a lot of fun even though I took those lessons very seriously.

One day he told me he could really see me singing Carmen by Bizet… a mezzo-soprano role that I would have sung divinely and that would have highlighted my voice… for me it was a shock. Carmen was a wild woman, extremely sensual… of course the pieces were wonderful but the character… I DIDN’T HAVE THE COURAGE to go beyond my fears, my ideas back then were very limited… WHAT A PITY, I would have had so much fun… and I threw away a talent…

That feeling of being able to enjoy singing stayed inside me, though, and as soon as I could it blossomed again effortlessly. And that’s where it makes me feel in the right place.

If it also seems to you that you are walking a path you didn’t really choose

if instead you would like to rediscover what your talents are (the one you would be unbeatable at)

If you feel that your body guides you in one direction but your mind is afraid to listen to it…

Write to me or contact me, don’t give up, don’t resign yourself, let’s try to find your MISSION together!