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Disciplines – Feng Shui – A House to Play In

A House to Play in: Play at home

No, this section isn’t just for those with children! And it’s not only for those expecting a baby! We’ve all been children, and as adults, we often have to reflect on our own childhood. And yes, even on our childhood bedroom (did you have one, for example?). Children’s rooms are often neglected. Many times, it’s the first room you encounter when entering a home, the one closest to the front door. In other homes, there’s a “storage” room, where even years after moving in, you find boxes to unpack and the ironing board. And in this undefined, disorganized, and unappealing space, we put our little ones to sleep. Now, let’s try to remember our own childhood room and the feelings we experienced. Consider how the placement of our crib might relate to the sense of warmth and protection our parents provided (or didn’t provide) for us. How did we perceive this situation? Be aware, this might have been one of the wounds of the soul  (in this regard, I encourage you to read “Heal your wounds & find your true self” as described and elaborated by Lise Bourbeau).
A little girl smiles happily while playing with her wooden playhouse.

A House to Play In: My Childhood Experience

When I was a year and a half old, my parents were waiting for the completion of the apartment where we would later live for the next 12 years. During those 4 months, my room was a small space by the entrance, right next to the front door of a ground-floor apartment, protected only by a sheet hung up. Everyone remembers only how much I cried during that time.

Later, in the new apartment, I finally had my own small room, created in a part of the living room. Eventually, when we moved to an even larger place, my brothers were given the siblings´room, and I was assigned the sofa bed in the living room, where I slept from the ages of 14 to 24. Try to imagine… How might my soul have interpreted this arrangement? What perception of love did it receive? What wounds might have developed in my soul?

But my situation was far from unique. When I was a child, our parents’ generation had lived through one of the darkest periods in European history. As children of World War II, they had experienced fear, hunger, discomfort, and a lack of affection. Once you came to understand, accept, and embrace their circumstances, ‘everything became simpler’!

A House to Play In: Children in the Animal World

Let’s take as an example how animals (all of them, without exception) behave towards their offspring. In the animal kingdom, there is nothing more precious than the young. Animals know that the survival of the species is ensured only through the survival of their offspring. Therefore, in the den that each female animal builds, with the contribution of the future parent of the puppies, the space furthest from the entrance is designated as the ‘nursery.’

Now we understand which room NOT to designate as a nursery… but the situation is different for nearly adult children! As always, each situation should be contextualized and never generalized. We must remember that, in a framework of well-being, we want to view each person as a unique and irreplaceable individual. Conversely, there are cases where the children’s room is larger than the parents’ room… so what happens then?

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    Two children dressed in yellow are playing with a toy train while their mother looks on happily.

    Play at Home: Raising a Child

    The space we occupy transforms us into who we are! Human beings are deeply connected to the space they inhabit: understanding this space helps us transform our behavior. By becoming aware of our actions, we can finally change our habits and thus alter our destiny!

     

    He who cultivates a habit shapes a character; he who cultivates a character shapes a destiny.

    Nothing happens by chance!

    • How can we provide our child with clear guidance?
    • Why do children often prefer to sleep in their parents’ bed?
    • What happens if I give my child a room that is not suitable for his/her development?
    • Play at home and Sleep… How can we balance these two activities?

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